Please understand that everything I suggest will not be exactly right for you. You are free to pick and chose what will work for you, and what won’t. I’ve had people tell me that putting themselves in control didn’t work for them, and they need to give control to another person or to God. I’ve had people who are trying to get over obsessive behaviors tell me that list writing had become an uncontrollable obsession for them. If your goal is to stop writing lists, then please disregard my advice to keep a list.
People in early recovery often need to avoid their drug of choice (which isn’t limited to drugs, but rather refers to your specific problem area) just one day at a time, or sometimes one minute at a time. In short, use what works for you, and disregard what doesn’t.